For the past year and a half I have been living with a Colostomy due to treatment for Bowel Cancer.
I have never been a very confident person and will often hide behind my children when it comes to being social.
I shy away from confrontation and hide my body behind clothes that are not figure hugging.
Learning to live with my stoma has been hard. Learning to accept how my body has become has been a journey. I am still not fully confident with myself, but I took the first big step a few days ago. That was, to share a picture of me in a bikini (not a high-waisted one) on a couple of my social media outlets.
I was worried that people would reject me and call me hideous but I needed to do it for myself.
Recently, the blogging community had been shocked with the sudden death of a highly respected blogger. Her main motto was to live for the day, her approach to life was honest and carefree. She was bold, caring and funny. I didn’t know the Kate but I had seen her at events that I had been to and followed her on Twitter, where I got to read about her dating exploits. This week, a huge following of bloggers shared photos of themselves, on social media, in their bikinis. Kate’s tips on getting your body bikini ready was to simply just wear one!
My facebook and Instagram feed quickly became full of beautiful ladies of all ages sharing their bikini bodies. I became inspired to share mine.
If everyone else could, then why couldn’t I?
I first shared the picture on the blogs facebook page and then on Instagram. I was worried about receiving negative comments, but in fact I received some lovely comments of support and encouragement.
You see, I see my body as hideous. Ugly. Gross. A monster hidden beneath the clothes.
I want to be accepted, even though I am different.
I want people to know but I don’t want to be ridiculed.
I don’t want people to stare at my tummy, scanning over my clothes looking for where my stoma is.
I am quite anxious talking about my stoma and letting new friends know about it. I don’t want to be treated differently.
But, I shouldn’t be feeling like this. I should be proud that I am still here. Still alive.
Beauty isn’t just about having a perfect body with no imperfections or having a pretty face. It’s about having a pretty soul, a good heart and a strong mind.
So with Kates ‘this is me- take it or leave it’ attitude I share with you all now how I look today
Never stop believing in yourself!