Marathon of bedtime

Bedtime is chaotic in this household

It’s a constant battle to get the children to sleep.

You just about think your winning. They’re in their beds all tucked up and looking like little angels and just as you take a foot over the threshold of the bedroom door, thinking of how you are going to spend the last couple of quiet hours of your evening, when you hear…

“I need a wee”

“I’m thirsty”

“I’m not tired”

“Just one more story”

“I’ve got a belly ache”

Anything to stay awake for those extra few minutes of the evening

The longer they stay awake the more tired and irritable I become. I was so close to the finish line of relaxation.

For a moment there I could see it, but yet I was so far away.

Our bedtime routine can sometimes be a fast one, with  no arguments but most of the time it can take up to over an hour to get the little rascals into bed. So I set myself a goal of reducing it to half an hour by setting up a routine.

We have always had a bedtime routine but it seemed to have lapsed the older they got. Before we moved home, the boys all shared a room. They now have a room to them selves which makes it easier to stagger their bedtime. It is always hard to keep to a routine when the children get older as they attend after school clubs that normally finish near to their bedtime.

Our newest routine consists of

  • Wind down time, removing any electrical equipment from them about an hour before bedtime. I sometimes have to hide them in my bedroom away from their sneaking hands
  • An hour before bed they can have a small glass of water. Any more than that and they will be up in the night going to the toilet
  • Half hour before bedtime they are told to have a shower/wash and to brush their teeth, I give constant count down reminders about what they are doing next.
  • They get there clothes ready for the next day, placed neatly into a pile near to their bed
  • They can choose a book to read to themselves for 10 minutes
  • Once in bed I then sit down and read a book to them. This is a book that both boys have chosen. We are currently reading Harry Potter together. I normally read them a chapter a night. The two younger boys have a connecting room, so this is easy to do whilst both boys are in bed
  • I always end the day with a cuddle and a kiss and give them a praise about their day. Falling asleep on a positive note relaxes them and encourages a good nights sleep
  • Tuck them up in bed and turn off the lights

I try to keep the landing light off too, as this seems to keep them awake. Also talking a calm voice and not rushing them along helps them to the routine running smoothly.

I must admit this doesn’t always go to plan and I still get the odd shout from the boys bedroom about them not being tired enough for sleep. We’re not all perfect after all!




So long Nightmare!

For a while now Joseph has been going to bed at his bedtime at 8:00 with no problems but within 15 minutes he is out of bed and complaining that he has had a nightmare, I don’t know if this is the case or that he just wants to stay up a bit later with Mummy but what I do know is that the latter isn’t going to happen.

There were many things I would do when I heard the ‘MUM, I’ve had a nightmare!’

I tried going into his room with him, looking around his room and telling him that he was safe and no monster or bad person was around

I cuddled and reassured him that Mummy was only next door and I would protect him

I gave him his Bradley Bear and tucked him into bed nice and tightly with his duvet, nothing bad would happen with Bradley around

Sometimes I would lay in bed with him until he fell asleep

Sometimes I would leave the hallway light on for a while

I would tell him to think of nice, good and fun things to take his mind off of what he had just dreamt

I would talk to him about our holidays or days out, get him to recall the times when he laughed and had fun

All of these worked for that moment but then the next night it would be ‘MUM I’ve had a nightmare’

It was Jak that suggested that we make him a dream maker, a squirt of the dream maker just before bed would scare away the nightmares and only produce good dreams


Making a dream maker is easy, you will need:

-1 empty bottle that has a squirt pump on it


-Lavender oil

-1 tired little boy that believes in magic

Lavender is known to have a calming effect which may aid in relaxation.

Joseph squirted the dream maker under his bed, on his duvet, around the bedroom and on his teddies


Joseph fell asleep within minutes with a smile on his face 🙂


A break through or just a one off!

Last night was the first night in just over three weeks where i got a decent night sleep.

For the past few weeks Oliver has been torturing us through out the night with his screaming because he wants to get in bed and be close to me. It all started when i got his hair cut and although it needed i was in two minds to do it as he uses his hair as comfort. Well i certainly paid for my decision as from that day he has woke up in the night, climbed out of his cot and into my bed, crawled up straight the middle of his Dad and i, put his hand out to find my hair, once his fingers were entwined around the strands of my hair he drifted off to sleep. A few days ago i blogged about wanting some sleep and what we was going through read about it  here.

I have had a few bad nights since where i have laid in my bed and listened to him scream and cry, watched him kick and punch his cot in temper but it’s looking like my perseverance and persistence has played off as last night he pretty much slept through waking once to have a little cry but he laid back down and fell asleep after five minutes.

 This is how i found him this morning



What has worked for me?

I have had to put my dressing gown into his cot so he had something of me to cuddle up to and smell

I removed his cot bumper so he had nothing to use to lever himself up on

I put one of his favourite blankets into his cot

I pushed his cot away from the bottom of my bed so it wasn’t touching it

I slept at the bottom of the bed so i could be close to him and so if he did manage to climb out i was there to catch him

I made sure that he fell asleep in his cot of the evening

Everytime he attempted to climb out of the cot i placed him back in and laid him down

I didn’t speak to him

Persevered but suffered hours of missed sleep

I didn’t give in!

Is this the first of many nights of good sleep or just a one off!

I hope so…..



Staying awake! 108/365

Oliver is trying everything he can to stay awake this evening, he has screamed the bedroom down because he was put into his cot and he climbed out and into my bed so I have taken to sitting in the sofa with him.

We have read his favourite ‘Goodnight stories and rhymes’ book and he has cuddled up to Bedtime Rory, he has rubbed his eyes a few times so I don’t think it will be long before he is in the land of nod.



Please let me Sleep!

Ever since Oliver was 4 months old he has always been good with his sleeping, taking long naps through the day and sleeping through the night occasionally waking when he was either ill or teething. I have always praised him for his sleeping habits that’s until recently when he decided to wake a few times throughout the night, not for a drink nor because he is feeling unwell but because he just wants a cuddle.

Oliver is now 20 months old and falls asleep at about 9:30 in the evening whilst drinking his bottle of milk (yes, he still has a bottle which i am trying to ease him away from), he doesn’t normally fall asleep in his cot though it is normally on the sofa where he will be sitting next to me. I have tried laying him down in his cot with his bottle but he just screams when it is finished and climbs out of his cot. I know it would be much easier on me if i laid him to sleep in his cot without me being around so he can fall asleep in his bed and then hopefully he won’t be waking up wanting to be close to me but it’s not as easy as it sounds especially when you are the only adult in the house that looks after the children.

I have three children that need to be bathed, teeth brushed, story to be read to and tucked into bed, i have three lots of clothes that need to be picked up from the floor and placed into the laundry basket and i have three lots of clean clothes that need to be placed back on the floor ready to be worn the next day.

The two oldest boys have a bedtime of 8 o clock and Oliver used to go down at the same time but as he as got older he has wanted to be nearer to me and refuses to lay in his cot without me being near him.

I unfortunately live in a small two bed house, I am currently looking for somewhere bigger but the cost of houses around here are extortionate, Oliver’s cot is placed at the bottom of my bed which makes it easy for him to climb out onto, at 2 am in the morning with little effort he is out of that cot and crawling up the bed in between his Dad and I and in a matter of no time at all he is tucking himself up under the duvet, head laid on my pillow and then he places one arm around my neck and with the other he is using his hand to play with my hair! His little fingers get wrapped around the strands of my hair, he lets out a loud sigh *pheew* and then falls asleep pulling playing with my hair.

As soon as he is asleep, i pick him up and place him gently back into his cot, tuck him up and lay back down on my bed. Sometimes he wakes back up and sometimes he stays there until morning.

There are times when i have acted like a yoyo and have laid him back in his cot as soon as he tried to climb out but he has screamed and screamed and then he goes into a tantrum where he starts banging his head on to the side of the cot, once he got himself into such a state that after an hour i have had to give in and bring him down stairs to calm him down and even then he has fallen asleep still making noises from where he can’t catch his breath from crying so much.

I know he wants to feel close to me, I know he wants comfort, I know playing with my hair calms him, all this is lovely but just not at 2 in the morning!

I have offered him a bottle of milk

I have changed his nappy

I have not spoken to him

I have been quiet

I have not cuddled him

I have tucked him in

I have listened to his screaming

I have listened to his cries

I have lowered the base of his cot

I have not turned the light on

I have laid him to sleep in his cot

What else can i do to get him to sleep through the night again?


Babies first trip to the swimming pool



Mummy and Daddy was talking in the room where mummy brings all that lovely tasting food from, she spends a lot of her time in there.
I was rolling around the floor, trying to do that thing they call ‘crawling’ i’m not sure what it is but whenever I put my knees up and move my hands, mummy always shouts out
“Daddy, quick come look at Oliver he is crawling”
My big brothers are running around and jumping all over me shouting
“yippee yippee, we’re going swimming”
I look at them and smile, they always make me laugh
Now, I’m not sure what swimming is but mummy is now picking me up and putting my coat on and telling my brothers to get into the car.
Daddy is running round the house looking for something called goggles, he finds them, I think that they look really scary.
Once in the car, i cry a bit because i feel a bit cold and uncomfortable in my car seat, daddy puts the music on,he always does this when I cry. I don’t know why but whenever I cry I get a lovely cuddle from my mummy.
A feel a bit sleepy so I close my eyes, listening to the lovely sound that the car is making.
I must have fallen asleep because I wake to mummy carrying me out side, I can see a big building and my brothers are running off in front of us. We go through these big moving things and see a lady sitting down mummy hands her a piece of paper, I smile at the lady but I dont think she has noticed me as she doesn’t smile back.
Daddy takes my brothers off and I stay with mummy, she takes me into a room and starts to undress me, it must be bed time!
Oh! I’m wrong she’s putting a nappy on me, it’s not like my normal nappies, it’s blue and has little yellow birds on it, like the ones I play with at bath-time.
Mummy gets changed while she is holding me with one arm, she’s clever my mummy!
Mummy tells me that we are ready but first she has to put our clothes into a locker, she opens up this big metal cage and puts in our things, I do hope we can get them back, as I’ve become quite attached to my socks, they taste good!
We walk over to a BIG bath
I can see my brothers playing with each other and just about make out Daddy moving up and down in the water.
Mummy gets into the bath and dips me in
Oooh it’s called! Not like my baths at home
I don’t understand why all these people are bathing with me, but I like it!
I start to move my arms and legs, it feels good
My brother comes over and throws water at me, mummy tells him off, it scares me a bit and I get a bit upset, I have a wet face now!
Out of no where the goggles come out of the water
Oh no there coming to get me!
I grab hold of mummy tightly, she will save me!
Hold on they look a bit like my big brother,
Yes! It’s Jak!
The goggles are on my big brothers face, he looks funny and it makes me laugh. I reach out and grab him by the face
Aaah my brother! I love him! He always gives me good cuddles when I am upset, he makes me feel warm inside, and sometimes I fall asleep on him.
I am having fun in the water playing with my brothers, mummy says I am like a duck to water, I have no idea what she is going on about but ducks must have lots of fun and excitement because I am enjoying this so much.
Daddy comes over and takes me away from mummy, I like being with daddy, he throws me around and pulls me through the water, I get excited and kick my legs, lots of water goes up in the air.
I squeal with delight!
Mummy says it’s time to get out, she says my lips have gone blue
I don’t want to leave the water, I’m having fun but it is a bit cold.
I cry when she takes me away from the water, if I kick my legs and scream she might put me back in, it doesn’t work!
Instead Mummy wraps me up in a big fluffy thing, it feels a bit like my favourite teddy bear, it makes me feel very warm and cosy.
The big metal thing gave mummy my socks back and she got me dressed, I wriggled about on the changing mat, it feels very cold!
Mummy says that my first trip to the swimming baths was a success, i do hope that means we will be coming back as it is so much better than having a bath on my own!
I feel a bit tired now, I think I may just close my eyes.