Ever since Oliver was 4 months old he has always been good with his sleeping, taking long naps through the day and sleeping through the night occasionally waking when he was either ill or teething. I have always praised him for his sleeping habits that’s until recently when he decided to wake a few times throughout the night, not for a drink nor because he is feeling unwell but because he just wants a cuddle.
Oliver is now 20 months old and falls asleep at about 9:30 in the evening whilst drinking his bottle of milk (yes, he still has a bottle which i am trying to ease him away from), he doesn’t normally fall asleep in his cot though it is normally on the sofa where he will be sitting next to me. I have tried laying him down in his cot with his bottle but he just screams when it is finished and climbs out of his cot. I know it would be much easier on me if i laid him to sleep in his cot without me being around so he can fall asleep in his bed and then hopefully he won’t be waking up wanting to be close to me but it’s not as easy as it sounds especially when you are the only adult in the house that looks after the children.
I have three children that need to be bathed, teeth brushed, story to be read to and tucked into bed, i have three lots of clothes that need to be picked up from the floor and placed into the laundry basket and i have three lots of clean clothes that need to be placed back on the floor ready to be worn the next day.
The two oldest boys have a bedtime of 8 o clock and Oliver used to go down at the same time but as he as got older he has wanted to be nearer to me and refuses to lay in his cot without me being near him.
I unfortunately live in a small two bed house, I am currently looking for somewhere bigger but the cost of houses around here are extortionate, Oliver’s cot is placed at the bottom of my bed which makes it easy for him to climb out onto, at 2 am in the morning with little effort he is out of that cot and crawling up the bed in between his Dad and I and in a matter of no time at all he is tucking himself up under the duvet, head laid on my pillow and then he places one arm around my neck and with the other he is using his hand to play with my hair! His little fingers get wrapped around the strands of my hair, he lets out a loud sigh *pheew* and then falls asleep
pulling playing with my hair.
As soon as he is asleep, i pick him up and place him gently back into his cot, tuck him up and lay back down on my bed. Sometimes he wakes back up and sometimes he stays there until morning.
There are times when i have acted like a yoyo and have laid him back in his cot as soon as he tried to climb out but he has screamed and screamed and then he goes into a tantrum where he starts banging his head on to the side of the cot, once he got himself into such a state that after an hour i have had to give in and bring him down stairs to calm him down and even then he has fallen asleep still making noises from where he can’t catch his breath from crying so much.
I know he wants to feel close to me, I know he wants comfort, I know playing with my hair calms him, all this is lovely but just not at 2 in the morning!
I have offered him a bottle of milk
I have changed his nappy
I have not spoken to him
I have been quiet
I have not cuddled him
I have tucked him in
I have listened to his screaming
I have listened to his cries
I have lowered the base of his cot
I have not turned the light on
I have laid him to sleep in his cot
What else can i do to get him to sleep through the night again?