New Years Resolution! Face My Fear Of Driving

There could be only one main New Years resolution for me and that would be to face my fear of driving! Although i have had my driving licence now for 3 years now i have probably only driven the car about 20 times, im not kidding i really do not go out in the car unless I’m a passenger! I blogged about my fear back in May 2012 and received some fabulous feedback, some words of encouragement and some from people who also suffer from the same as me. I thought it was just me that feared me hands on the steering wheel but it seems that there are many people out there that feel the same as me and go through hell as well when it comes to sitting in a driver’s seat. I look at other drivers whilst out walking or as a passenger in a car and watch them zipping in and out of traffic like they are on a racing track oozing with confidence. I don’t feel at ease with my car and definitely don’t feel like she is my best friend or that i would be lost without he, yes i call her ‘she’ but that’s not because i am close to her but probably because she emptied by bank account and cost a small fortune. People tell me that i shall become more comfortable in time once driving around a bit more and my confidence will grow but it seems to have gone the other way! I haven’t driven the car for about 3 months now and since buying the new car back in May I think i have only been in the driver’s seat a handful of times. I feel that the car is way too big for me and fear driving such a huge strong vehicle, you see we used to have a Peugeot estate but now we have a Ford Galaxy 7 seater and my fear is not only other drivers and having an accident but it is now that i may scratch it! My legs shake uncontrollably when i know i have to drive into a car park, the thought of finding a space big enough for me to manoeuvre the car in to haunts me. My throat becomes dry and my heart beats in a rapid tempo when i see traffic lights up ahead, i think about stalling the car so much that my leg shakes and it results in me stalling the car more than once and as i have been threatened before by some horrible men in a car for not pulling away quick enough i fear that my lack of acceleration may cause trouble.

I do want to drive and make my family proud of me, i want to pull up at football and let the eldest out and sit in comfort whilst watching him run around the pitch instead of getting wet in the rain, standing in the wind and shivering in the cold for an hour and a half, i want to visit my Mummy who lives 34 miles away (longest 34 miles of my life when im driving!) when i have a day off work with the children, i want to be able to go shopping and buy anything i want no matter the size or weight as i don’t have to think about how I’m going to get it home, I don’t want to sit in an over packed, smelly, rickety bus no more! I want to visit friends and family without thinking about my journey and working it out in my head how i’m going to get there without going over a hill, round a roundabout or hitting too many traffic lights!

Above all and the most important one is i want to be proud of myself for facing my fear and beating it, so this year 2013 i promise i will take more trips in the car even if they are small ones or just a drive around the block they will be done and hopefully by the summer i will be zipping around in my huge MPV oozing confidence and taking my family out on day trips (maybe i shouldn’t push it that far! lol) So if you see me on the road piddling along at a comfortable speed please don’t beep me for being too slow or call me names for not pulling away quick enough or threaten me for sitting at a junction waiting for a big enough space for me to pull out in, please think about what it has taken for me to get into the car and take my children out for a drive! It may be a slow process but it’s one i feel that it’s one that needs to be addressed!

What’s your New Years Resolution?

Thank you for reading my post, i shall update you all on my progress throughout the year

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13 thoughts on “New Years Resolution! Face My Fear Of Driving

  1. Have you tried exchanging your car for a smaller one?.. I am sure driving a bigger car will terrify me!, especially because I am not that good at parking.
    I read your may 2012 post last year, it did encourage me to try!. I bought a Nissan Micra (new) and started driving solo in November last year. What it has helped is that I choose a car I felt comfortable in. I am so proud to tell I reached the 2000 km mark.. 🙂
    It has been a snowy winter here in Finland, I have been driving carefully, because it is slippery, but I have become more relaxed while driving since the first time I tried. I have been measuring my heart beat while driving sometimes, the first time I got a whooping 125 bpm average.. nowadays is around 88 bpm.. much more relaxed. I’ve also learned by the way that formula one drivers get a very high heart rate while racing, so it is not easy for them either 🙂

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  3. What a great acheivement for a new Years Resolution. Please concentrate on the positive and how much freedom you would have when you pass your test. I’m an ex driving instructor and found time and time again that with nervous drivers it was all about knowledge! The more knowledge of the highway code you have the more control and confidence you will have on the road. DO NOT ASSUME ALL OTHER DRIVERS ARE IN THE RIGHT!!! More often than not they are not driving corectly……do not let them intimidate you 🙂 Good Luck x

  4. Best of luck, I was a nervous driver when I learned in my late 20s, the key for me (counterintuitively) was learning in London where everyone was SO mean and impatient that driving anywhere else seemed a doddle in comparison. Not to be recommended, I suggest 🙂

    1. Thank you for commenting!
      I live in greater London and I think that’s one of the things that scares me so much is that everyone thinks they are Jenson Button and drive like they are possessed! London is so busy with traffic, I would be ok if it was just me on the road lol 🙂

    1. I’m not too sure people round here know what patience means! I suffered more abuse when I displayed the P on my car than when I took it off! I got told to take my test again, to get off the road until I learn to drive properly x

  5. Love to read mums blogging about enjoying their life with kids! But can identify with this one as I had a friend with the same fear – she decided driving wasn’t for her in the end and it was the right decision for her, although maybe not for you! I have found, that to help me through fears – and we had quite a few when we were home educating our children – I must remember to visualise what it looks like when I’m not afraid. I.e. – really imagine what it’s going to look and feel like driving the car with confidence. I bet you only ever visualise the opposite! Take it slow. Do lots of regular short trips. Imagine them going really well. You’ll get there. Best wishes.

    1. Thank you for your advice! Your right I only visualise the negative and not the positive so I am going to think good thoughts next time I’m in the drivers seat and try to stay focused 🙂 x

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